Kentucky Wrongful Death Attorney(2)
Posted by
Daryl DixonFebruary 12, 2008 12:15 AMStages of a Wrongful Death Case--Stage II
In my last article on Kentucky Wrongful Death, we examined Stage I or the Shock Stage. As we move on to Stage II we enter the Stage known as Grief. This begins directly after the initial shock stage and can start anywhere from Day 5 to Two Weeks after the Victims death.
This is the stage where the sadness and emptiness sets in. The loss of a loved one is a surreal experience. Symptons include loss of appitite, loss of sleep, extreme restlessness and yes......even guilt. The guilt comes mainly from the things you wish you could have said or did with your loved one. The chance to do just one or two things over again and do them right.
Many survivors are very hard on themselves in the grieving stage and at some points even blame themselves.......IS THERE A CURE???? The answer is that there is nothing that can take away what has happened or the event. But there are steps to take: Show your emotions. Go ahead and cry and let out all of your feelings. Some of my most special memories are having clients in my office and me telling them that it is ok to cry, it is ok to grieve. This is part of the remedy and the first step in the long road to curing a broken heart.
Many times couseling is a good idea. With a Psychologist or Psychiatrist or even your Lawyer. I have truly valued every time that I have been able to be the trusted Counselor to a family, group or individual that is dealing with the Wrongful Death of a Loved One. These sessions have given me valuable experience and knowledge that I can pass on through articles such as this. As with other Doctors the information shared is priveleged and specific information will never be shared by the Attorney.
The question that is most often asked: HOW DO I GO ON WHEN MY HEART IS BROKEN??? Unfortunately I have not figured out the answer to this one yet and it has turned into a bit of a lifelong quest. I have interviewed many professionals from different businesses and from all walks of life to include teachers, clergy and the like.....but I still CANNOT answer this one just yet. But the first step is to GRIEVE......just grieve. It is ok and it is what your lost loved one would want you to do for a while.........but not for forever.
For only after you get through this Grief Stage, Stage II, are you ready to pick up the pieces and begin to search for the answer to the question asked above. Your answer will likely be different than the next person.
By weathering the storm of this stage you are ready to mend. But the next stage, if your not careful, can be the most destructive or the biggest roadblock. The next stage begins when the grieving ends......It is what I call the Anger Stage. If you are not careful it can be the stage that tears you down or when handled correctly it can be the stage that sets the course for your own personal comeback. When handled correctly It can be the stage that gives you the wisdom and the fortitude and the perserverance to mend your broken heart and emerge as a stronger person.
In the next stage I will show you the pitfalls and what to avoid and I will explain that there are really only two roads out of the Anger Stage. Which one you choose can make you or break you. I will give real world and celebrity examples to further illustrate the path to avoid and the path to choose.